A Girl's Guide to Being Friends With Girls

(This column originally appeared on Buzznet.com on January 13, 2012.  It has been reposted here with some changes.)

Sorry for the lateness of this week’s column, folks.  Was trying to figure out how to approach a topic, then decided to put that topic off for a little while.  And instead I’m going to talk about you.

“But Ashly,” you say, “isn’t this a column about friendship and repairing the social misconceptions about female friendship?”

Yes, it is.

“But Ashly,” you say again, “are you about to tell me that I have to change myself and my likes/interests in order to make friends and become popular?”

Nope.  The goal of this column has nothing to do with getting friends or some ridiculous idea of popularity.  Heck, sometimes it’s not even going to be about actually being FRIENDS with other girls so much as it is going to be about bucking the trend of girls hating girls because they’re girls and fighting against a lot of the institutionalized social ideas we have about being girls.

And guess what?  One of the things involved in that is being friends with yourself.

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